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19 June 2019

Mums in Blue

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By Hadi Hafidz (Photos: Public Affairs Department)

A mother’s love is unconditional. No matter how tough the road ahead may be, a mother will always be there to protect her children and give them the utmost care. As part of Police Life’s Mother’s Day feature, I caught up with some of our mums in blue to find out more about how they cope with their family and work commitments. 

Superintendent of Police (Supt) Chee Chin Lin,

Assistant Director,

Digital Transformation Department

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Supt Chee’s role is to develop and integrate new capabilities for the Singapore Police Force by leveraging cutting-edge technology.

 

Tell us more about your family.

 

I have been married for nine years to a polytechnic lecturer. We have a six-year-old daughter who enjoys swimming and a three-year-old son who loves singing and dancing. Just an interesting fact: my dad is a retired police officer.

 

How has life changed since having children?

 

After becoming a mother, I hardly get enough sleep. While I always look forward to seeing my kids and spending time with them after work, I do wish at times that they would go to sleep earlier so that my husband and I could also get our much needed rest. Then again, such occasions are rare as my kids are always full of energy! My mornings are not spared either. On most days, including weekends, my two cheeky monkeys will be climbing all over me before 7 am. Although it can be tiring, being a mother is truly a blessing. It brings me joy seeing my daughter grow up to become a sensible and caring girl, and watching my son singing and dancing to “Baby Shark”.

 

How do you manage family and work commitments?

 

Striving for productivity and efficiency is my strategy. Only by doing so can I fulfil my work commitments in time and yet still able to leave work on time to spend time with my family.

 

I am also very fortunate to have very understanding bosses and colleagues who chip in to help out with my workload when I have to take last-minute leave to care for my children when they fall sick.

 

Two other persons who have played very important roles in helping me to juggle between my work and family are my mum and husband. When my kids were younger, my mum helped me take care of them whenever duty called. My very understanding husband would always plan our family activities around my work schedule as far as possible. As the saying goes, “It takes a village to raise a child”.

 

What advice do you have for couples considering having children?

 

Having not one but two children and having them early is probably one of my best life decisions. I had my first child when I was 27 years old and my second at 30 years old. My children will be grown up by the time I retire.

 

For those who plan to have more than one child, it would be good for the age gap between siblings to be close so they could share some items with each other such as toys.

 

 

Inspector (Insp) Nuraien Jairani,

Officer-in-Charge (OC) Troop, In-situ Reaction Team,

Protective Security Command

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Insp Nuraien is in charge of a team of officers who serve as a quick reaction force in neutralising armed threats and conduct high-visibility patrols in areas with high footfall to deter attacks.

 

Tell us more about your family.

 

I am happily married for 11 years to a fitness instructor. We have three kids; my eldest daughter is in Primary One, my four-year-old son just entered nursery and my youngest daughter just turned one. I am happy to see my two older children showing interest in sports such as swimming and football. I hope that when the youngest one grows a little older, she will enjoy being physically active like her siblings.

 

How has life changed since having children?

 

It has been a challenging journey thus far, especially in terms of managing time and priorities.

 

I was still doing my part-time studies when I gave birth to my first and second child. I created a timetable to better manage my work commitments, complete school assignments and take care of my children at the same time. Whenever my schedule was extremely packed, I would wake up in the middle of the night to work on my school assignments for a couple of hours and attend to my children when they needed me.

 

Two months after giving birth to my third child, I was selected to attend a six-month residential course, and I would only get to go home on the weekends. It was tough being away from my family, but with the understanding and constant encouragement from my husband and parents, I managed to complete the course successfully.

 

How do you manage family and work commitments?

 

Working shift duties for a large part of my career taught me how to strike a better balance between work commitments and family time. During morning shifts, I do not get to spend much time with my kids as I would leave for work before they wake up and only come home when they are already asleep. However, I will make it a point to spend time with them the following day, before my night shift, by taking no more than two hours of nap before my shift. Similarly, after a night shift, I will usually sleep for about an hour or so before waking up to either play with them at home, or take them out for the day.

 

What advice do you have for couples considering having children?

 

Having children is a big commitment. You must be prepared mentally and physically to make sacrifices. Time and priority management will be a critical skill to have. Finally, having constant communication with your husband and family to forge a strong understanding between each other will definitely help you to survive the toughest challenges.

 

Staff Sergeant (SSgt) Rehka D/O K. Govindasamy,

Community Policing Unit
Woodlands East Neighbourhood Police Centre

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As part of her engagement efforts, SSgt Rehka conducts interactive foot and bicycle patrols in the neighbourhood.

 

Tell us more about your family.

 

I have been married for 10 years to my first love, who currently serves in the Republic of Singapore Air Force. I have two daughters. The elder one is in Primary three – an absolute diva who loves piano and ballet. My younger daughter who is turning five, on the other hand, is the total opposite of her older sister as she is starting to show interest in playing the drums and picking up taekwondo.

 

How has life changed since having children?

 

Children today are very inquisitive. They always ask for explanations when you give them a task to complete. To guide a child effectively, we need to unlearn, reboot and relearn the methods of teaching them. Gone were the days when children would follow their parents’ instructions without questioning. The positive result of this is that it constantly reminds parents that their guidance to them must have a logical reasoning. In gist, it takes a lot of effort, patience and love to have children.

 

Despite these challenges, children are undoubtedly one’s blessings. Every milestone that they experience in life, be it the growth of their first tooth, or a sports achievement, stays close to my heart. They have taught me to look at life from their perspectives. Even the simplest things or actions bring joy to my life.

 

How do you manage family and work commitments?

 

Pursuing a part-time degree on top of my responsibilities at home and at work meant that my day’s schedule was packed. Through such tough schedules, I learnt the art of time management. To ensure that we have family time, my husband and I always align our leave schedules. However, as much as we do plan, there will be times when work and school take precedence over family time. When such situations occur, my husband is always there to step in to solely carry our family responsibilities without a hitch.

 

What advice do you have for couples considering having children?

 

Motherhood is a choice. I have no qualms putting someone else’s happiness and well-being ahead of my own. It will never be easy to raise a family while donning the blue uniform to serve our mission. But, I discovered that the strength of motherhood is greater than I initially thought.


Last Updated on 19 June 2019